Don't make me choose.

If you ever hear a woman say, " Don't make me choose between you and my family (or family member)".  She already has and you my friend have lost.  When she prizes your opinion and relationship the most she will not even consider choosing, she will just go with you, even if you are wrong.  

I believe this attitude will lead her to place her children above your relationship.  This will be your admission to divorce and slaving for kids that she will turn against you. This thought was crystallized after reading this post http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/loving-husband-more-kids-key-good-life-181900983.html.    

Where it says "Perel believes that there's a badge of honor among American women to not prioritize yourself or your marriage: It's all about the children. Without realizing it, she said, women can end up getting their emotional intimacy and physical satisfaction from their children, instead of their partners, said Perel. They give their babies tons of wonderful affection -- and then don't have anything left over for their spouse. The marriage can become an afterthought."

This narcissistic pseudo sacrifice is an attempt to show the world how much they have suffered for love.  Often this is accompanied by "No one understands how much I work or give up to make everyone else happy."  Red Flag. 

The same thing applies to parents or sibling relationships.  When she is willing to put a secondary relationship, before her primary relationship.  Then her affection is focused more on that relationship than the relationship that should provide her long lasting satisfaction.  Red Flag.

This chick is not balanced and needs a constant stream of positive affirmation to be self-actualized.  You can set yourself on this highway of pain or you can take the next exit.  Yes, the one in that corn field, because:
1) There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2) Adjusted women know where to sacrifice and where to plant their seeds of affection
3) You never know where love will find you, but if you are able to heal from past hurts you will be ready to receive it, when you do.  

As my brother says "There are many choices, but they all have consequences."  When she chooses some other relationship over yours, you need to decided if it is time to bail or not.  It might be something she said in frustration, but you should never be put in the situation to have to repent for repeating things she has said.

Never go into a bar or a relationship without an exit plan.